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Demystifying something takes the power of mystery away from it, which reduces uncertainty. 

Reducing uncertainty is important because, as a survival based species we are genetically wired to respond to uncertainty as a threat to life, if only ever-so slightly.

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Why Learn About The Stress Response (Survival) System?

THE SHORT ANSWER IS:


 To regain present moment awareness more quickly and efficently by reducing as much uncertainty out of the experience as possible.


THE LONG ANSWER IS:


Trauma can feel mysterious, confusing and deeply personal.

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Learning about it may not remove every difficult emotion, but it can reduce uncertainty and help us recognize stress-response activation earlier.

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Imagine sitting alone when your front door suddenly opens. 

Your system may immediately react:

“Who is that?”

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Now imagine a friend calls you, they ask if they can stop by, you tell them yep come on in, the door’s open. The same door opened, the response is different:

“Yep, it’s them.”

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Same door, different response. 

Now understand memory and imagination activate the survival system as well.

If we're no longer surprised by something, how much better can we deal with it?

The Stress Response System

Probably the easiest place to observe stress response operation is in our pets.

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Next time your pet gets scared of something you know is clearly not a danger, observe them.

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What responsive behavior do they display until they return to their calm baseline?

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Fight - Flight - Freeze - Fawn

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This is in humans too.


Emotions Provoke Imagined Time

We perceive our environment, our survival brain compares it with memories of past simialr environments, and anticipates the future with the information to get a survival based jump start. 

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If the mind gets provoked into the past and future, where can we develop our ability to bring our awareness back to?

Understanding Fight / Flight Operation

Human beings are part of a social survival based species.  


Think about survival in two categories: 

1. Physical survival

2. Social survival


When the stress response / survival system is actiated the survival brain anticipates the worst case scenario (on a better safe than sorry basis) and imagines the scenario so vivid (using emotions) that the body begins physically scrambling to survive the event before the mind has the time to think about whether the threat is valid. 


Although commonly referred to as fight / flight, there are actually 4 recognized defaults our survival system uses to survive a threat, fight, flight, freeze (fainting in extreme cases), and fawn. 


1. Fight = Fight

2. Flight = Run away

3. Freeze = Hold still

4. Fawn = Appease an attacker to buy more time and space to figure out a better solution


In any combination, one of the four will be our primary default we were born with, followed by one of the four as a secondary default -according to Pete Walker's book, Complex PTSD, From Surviving To Thriving. 


Whether your default combo actually is fight flight, or if it's flight fawn, or fawn fight, etc it makes no difference; as survival based creatures we were born to have the highest probable chance at surviving within the crazy tribe we were born into. 


If our primary survival response doesn't work, or is unfeasable, we default to one of the four again as a secondary default. 


We want to think we are the ones in control, however when our survival system is activated our adrenaline charged impulsive behavior is more like a fishing lure being pulled through the water at incredible force and speed, as opposed to us pushing the lure through the water by our own conscious direction. 


After the fact the mind reimagines the scenario as if we were directing our movements by conscious control and introduces unfair elements of harsh inner criticism and self blame, when infact it was unconscious responsive survival based impulsivity making the moves, to get us to safety before we have to take the necessary time to think about what just happened. 


There's nothing personal about the response of our genetics, the mind personalizes everything it can about it inorder to make sense of it and self abuse / self punishment ahead of time to hedge against any possiblity of tribal rejection to come, because of our actions or inaction. 


This is the social survival element that provokes system reactivation when the mind runs with the memory of the survial event for a while after, and the tribal survival component is often more brutal than the physical survival portion of the survival system activating. 


System activation is always terrible, however the more we understand about it, the easier it becomes to deal with it. Always terrible, often difficult, also easier. 

Displays of the 4 F's / Stress Responses

1. Fight

1. Fight (Animals)

1. Fight (Animals)


People

       

1. Fight (Animals)

1. Fight (Animals)

1. Fight (Animals)


Animals

       

2. Flight

1. Fight (Animals)

2. Flight (Animals)


People

2. Flight (Animals)

2. Flight (Animals)

2. Flight (Animals)


Animals

3A. Freeze

2. Flight (Animals)

3A. Freeze


People

3B. Faint

2. Flight (Animals)

3A. Freeze

(Extreme version of Freeze)

People

3B. Faint (Animals)

3B. Faint (Animals)

3B. Faint (Animals)

(Extreme version of Freeze)

Animals

4. Fawn

3B. Faint (Animals)

3B. Faint (Animals)


People

4. Fawn (Animals)

3B. Faint (Animals)

4. Fawn (Animals)


Animals

Overuse Of The Stress Response System

I think of the symptoms of damage from an overused stress response system as damage. 

Better Understanding Trauma

How Trauma Changes The Brain

Why Your Brain Creates Trauma

Why Your Brain Creates Trauma

Dr. Tracey Marks, MD

       

Why Your Brain Creates Trauma

Why Your Brain Creates Trauma

Why Your Brain Creates Trauma

Lisa Feldman Barrett

       

Healing Traumatic Memories

Why Your Brain Creates Trauma

Healing Traumatic Memories

Healing Traumatic Memories

       

Autonomic Nervous System

Survival Brain Activation

Healing Traumatic Memories

Sympathethic (Fight / Flight) 

Vs

 Parasympathehic (Rest / Digest)       

Survival Brain Activation

Survival Brain Activation

Survival Brain Activation

Survival Brain Operation

       

Survival Brain Activation

Survival Brain Activation

Survival Brain Activation

Primitive vs Modern Survival Mode Activation

       

3 Types of trauma, with Dr. Paul Conti, MD.

3 Types of trauma, with Dr. Paul Conti, MD.

3 Types of trauma, with Dr. Paul Conti, MD.

1. Acute trauma

2. Chronic trauma

3. Vicarious trauma

Trauma Experienced

3 Types of trauma, with Dr. Paul Conti, MD.

3 Types of trauma, with Dr. Paul Conti, MD.

David Strother,  LSCSW LCSW

Demystifying

3 Types of trauma, with Dr. Paul Conti, MD.

What is our perspective of trauma?

Demystifying 

What is our perspective of trauma?

What is our perspective of trauma?

What is our perspective of trauma?

Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, MD

The Body Keeps The Score

What is our perspective of trauma?

The Body Keeps The Score

Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, MD

Emotions / Physiology / Psychology

No matter what, we are always dealing with these three components


1. Emotions = Endocrine System


2. Physiology = Nervous System


3. Psychology = The Mind

  

Brain/Body/Mind

Areas Of The Brain And Function

Areas Of The Brain And Function

Areas Of The Brain And Function


Areas Of The Brain And Their Functions

       

Stress Response Animation

Areas Of The Brain And Function

Areas Of The Brain And Function


Stress Response Animation

       

Neuroscience of PTSD

Areas Of The Brain And Function

Neuroscience of PTSD


Neuroscience of PTSD

The Nervous System

The Sympathethic N.S.

Neuroscience of PTSD

The Nervous System

The Edocrine System

The Sympathethic N.S.

The Sympathethic N.S.

The Endocrine System

The Sympathethic N.S.

The Sympathethic N.S.

The Sympathethic N.S.

The Sympathethic N.S.

The Parsympathetic N.S.

The Parsympathetic N.S.

The Parsympathetic N.S.

The Parasympathetic Nervous System

The Enteric N.S.

The Parsympathetic N.S.

The Parsympathetic N.S.

The Endocrine System

Polyvagal Theory

The Parsympathetic N.S.

Brain As A Prediction Machine

Polyvagal Theory

Brain As A Prediction Machine

Brain As A Prediction Machine

Brain As A Prediction Machine

The Brain Is. A Prediction Machine

Understanding PTSD

Warning Signs Of PTSD

Warning Signs Of PTSD

Understanding PTSD / Complex-PTSD (C-PTSD)

"Most people experience post traumatic stress, not everyone develops the disorder"- David Strother (LSCSW/LCSW).


The disorder part of PTSD is what this section addresses. 


For a clinical definition of PTSD  click here or the link below.


Here I am going to describe PTSD from my own experience and understanding living with it:


Think of the human body as a self healing survival based organism, and human beings are part of a highly adapative, invasive, and resilient social survival based species (the human species). 


When we experience, "normal" events in life there is an infomation component and an emotional component involved. The mind makes sense of the situation and stores it for later in the comparative memory bank, and the day goes on.


When we experience, "traumatic" events in life there is an information component and an overwhelming emotional component. The survial brain registers the situation as a threat to life and pays especially close attention to particular detail of the event, to try and make sense of it, and more efficently survive similar events in the future. 


With trauma the memory of the event become, "fragmented" into pieces of the event, instead of one fluid memory, and the fragmented pieces stick out glaringly, whereas the rest of the details of the event / story seem to fade into the background. If the memory of the traumatic event remains in fragmented form it becomes, unresolved trauma. 


Any reminders of the event can prompt the survival brain to become hyperfocused on the remembered details about the survived event, but not the entire event start to finish to gain a sense of settlement in the mind.


The survival system can activate just remembering the event, from a visual reminder of the event, a song that was playing during the event, the smell of a particular odor (cologne / exhaust fumes / etc) that was smelled during the event, etc. 


Think about how well our bodies protect us, if we got sick after eating a particular food (the taste of the same type of food can activate the survial system into rejecting it as possible poison), etc.  


When recalling a traumatic event (either voluntarially or involuntarially) the survival system floods the body with the original emotions of the event, in order to prime us to survive the event again. 


The surival brain works from a state of hypervigialnce order to gain a survival advantage using what is known as Symbolic Representation to play match-game with possible threats (this is where you hear the term "Trigger(s)" commonly used) and the survival brain pre-emptively activates the survival system with emotions on a better safe than sorry basis. 


When these emotions flood, the experience is relieved from a dissocated sense of awareness, much like driving somewhere on autopilot preoccupied in thought, only to arrive there safely and realize we didn't remember the drive at all. 


If you consider that human beings are adaptable enough to normalize any environment that does not physcially kill us. 


With PTSD, the person's stress response system had been activated so intensely for a long enough period of time to create a short cut for the survival brain to use to reactivate the stress response system without having to check in with the pre-frontal cortex to validate the threat. 


The survival brain essentally tells the prefrontal cotrex, "Been there, done that, this is a known threat, shut up", even if the threat is not actually a threat at all, but only a similar possible threat, and this is where the traumitized mind can run in loops.


This pattern can continue for a lifetime until corrected, however the beauty part is correcting these patterns is the fast part, which is where we get into the healing sections. Identifying the pattern is what most often takes so long. 


Diagnostic Criteria For PTSD (DSM-5)

Books

Here is a link for some good books to learn about trauma and
Dr. Bessell Van Der Kolk, MD.: The Body Keeps The ScorePete Walker, Complex PTSD From Surviving To ThrivingDr. Paul Conti MD. Trauma The Invisible EpidemicTerry Real, I Don't Want To Talk About It

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