Healing From Codependency and Narcissistic Abuse

Someone with the disorder of narcissism, otherwise known as NPD, does this with other human beings, subconsciously tripping the other person’s sympathetic nervous system (fight/flight) response into activation for the narcissist’s own personal service. 

 Narcissistic abuse can be thought of as essentially one human being perpetually activating another human beings’ stress response system for their own personal gain or to hurt the other person. Gaslighting is the abuser strategically causing the abused person to question their own reality and sanity about the situation.

Codependents are people who have yet to realize their own sense of Self worth, and therefore as equal and deserving of love as every other conscious energy of God's. 

Codependent people may dream of being in a relationship, narcissists perpetuate the illusion, allowing the codependent person forsake their own sense of happiness and joy to people please and serve the needs of others. Narcissists keep the hopeful illusion of a loving relationship going just enough to confuse the codependent into believing they need the narcissist while the narcissistically abusive person benefits as though they had a servant, from the people pleasing tendencies of the codependent person.

Have you ever seen a couple, and thought to yourself that one of them looks mean and the other looks pathetic? Like what an abusive asshole, or what a nasty bitch? And you think (or say), why doesn’t he/she just leave them? They are totally nice and caring, and they could probably find an amazing partner, why do they stick through this abuse? What are they thinking? 

Release the felt need to blame the narcissistic person for being narcissistically abusive, and focus on healing from codependency.  As soon as you have unapologetically healed from codependency, narcissistic tactics no longer work on you.

Love is not showing another person you are suffering for them. Love is unconditional, caring, compassion, and support to get through any condition life brings. Love is not revocable, and if you love someone who is chronically unable to be satisfied, feeling like your best is never quite good enough for them, and they seem to revoke their love from you through their anger, eventually restoring it in a relieving way when you changed your behavior ever-so-slightly to conform in the direction they wanted, this is not love. This is manipulation and abuse. You may want it to be love, however it’s not.

Realize your own greater sense of Self worth, realize you don't "need" anybody in particular to make you whole, and you are good enough exactly as you are, as one of God's children.