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Peer Support

It's important to know that healing from psychological trauma is a team sport. Developing healthy relationships of unconditional positive regard with one another allows us a steady baseline to synergize our healing from. 

Peer Support

Peer support is as it sounds, peers supporting eachother. 

It is not rescuing, and there is a difference, I have done both.  


Rescuing is jumping in to help others with their problems before addressing our own. 

Rescuing provides a dopamine rush from helping others, even (and especially) while avoiding our own problems. 


Support is healing from our own wounds first, and then helping others who are taking the same healing steps we once took. 


The key is retaining our own sense of Self regardless of where the conversation goes, recover and retain it in a steady sense of presence, give unconditional positive regard, and validation though lived experience. 


Hold space and understanding knowing you are talking to another human being about their stress response being chronically over activated, and the words about why their system had been activating are secondary. 


There is hearing and understanding the words of a story, and there is hearing and understanding when and where the mind believes it's at telling the story from. 


Our stories are either consciously recounted or subconsicously relived outloud, and these are two different conversations happening about the same thing. We either realize presence as we are telling our story or we are verbally living out a trauma pattern, from a dissociated perspective; both happen. 


Have compassion, be supportive, be present and allow others to join you in it. We are all in this together. 


The better you heal yourself the better you are able to help others heal with you. 

What Is Peer Support?

Peer Support Specialist

Trauma Informed Principles

Peer Support Specialist

Peer Support


Peer Support Specialist

Trauma Informed Principles

Peer Support Specialist

Peer Support


Trauma Informed Principles

Trauma Informed Principles

Trauma Informed Principles

Dr. Scott Giacomucci 


First Responder Trauma

First responders deal with a significant amount of psychological trauma, and I consider not only police, fire department, and EMS as first responders, I consider Emergency Room personnel, dispatchers, and various people working in a civilian capacity as first responders, as well as military personnel as first responders on a global stage. 


The amount of traumas a first responder experiences in their career compared to the amount of traumas the average person experiences in their lifetime is staggering, so if you've worked as a first responder and experienced the symptoms of psychological trauma give yourself grace. 


Anyone routinely dealing with graphic traumatic experiences who eventually experiences symptoms of PTSD is not fundamentally flawed, they're normal. It simply means their stress response system got damaged through over exposure without giving it rest. 


The human radiator that cools the stress responses' engine is the prefrontal cortex, and for some of us our engine ran hotter than the radiator could keep up with to cool the engine off and prevent damage. 


Some of us threw caution to the wind through the days of invincible youth doing this, and fundamentally altered the way our stress response system operates. This allowed us to adapt to, and survive extreme conditions beyond what we previously realized we are able to survive.


These changes to the survival system do not activate and deactivate whether we're wearing a uniform or not. The expectation that just because someone signed up for a job they should be immuned from trauma is about the same comparison as just because a vehicle was painted a particular color it should be able to withstand a collision.


Understand, No matter what uniform we do or don't wear, we're still human beings. 

If our stress response system runs way too hot for way too long, for any reason whatsoever, it'll affect the way it runs at baseline. 


There's noting personal going on with the stress response system changing either, it's just gorilla math; the hotter you heat metal the easier it becomes to bend. Once bent and cooled it holds shape unless bent again (and it can be heated and straightened again). 


Ratio Comparison


Here are estimates regarding trauma exposure of first responders compared to civilians:


Average civilian                                        0.03–0.06 per year

Police                                                         6–8 per year

Forensic crime scene processing           20-100 per year

Firefighter                                                 5–15+ per year

EMS / Paramedic                                     10–50+ per year

ER personnel.                                           10–50+ per year

Combat military                                       Depends on deployment tempo


Note: 


With trauma there is a high propensity for self judgement and a subconscious fear of death by tribal rejection. This happens because we're built on the DNA of our tribal ancestors who experienced tribal rejection as an actual death sentence, so our systems came prewired in life to experience any possibility of tribal rejection as a threat to life. 


Now consider this; if we have a perpencity for imagining ourselves as being perceived as weak for sustaining psychological damage, and of no more use to the tribe, it would activate our surival system into responsive action to be able to survive before having to think about it. 


Since most people don't know what's going on in them many avoid speaking out at all, for subconscious fear of being harshly judged and tribally rejected. This could on for a lifetime with them never truly knowing what provoked the paralyzing fear in the first place. 


The paradoxical thing is, speaking out and getting help is actually a strength beyond the subconscious fear of death by tribal rejection, making this strength far greater than any amount of machismo could ever hope to achieve.

Disabled American Veterans

Here is a link for a mental health resources page for military veterans 

Disabled American Veterans (DAV)

First Responder Trauma

FIrst Responder Mental Health

FIrst Responder Mental Health

FIrst Responder Mental Health

First Responder Mental Health


First Responder Trauma

FIrst Responder Mental Health

FIrst Responder Mental Health

First Responder Trauma


First Responder Trauma

FIrst Responder Mental Health

First Responder Trauma

Dispatcher Trauma


First Responder Trauma

First Responder Trauma

First Responder Trauma

First Responder Trauma


First Responder Trauma

First Responder Trauma

First Responder Trauma

First Responder Trauma


Beware Of Vicarious Trauma

Vicarious Trauma and Self Care

Beware Of Vicarious Trauma

Understanding Vicarious Trauma


What Is Vicarious Trauma?

Vicarious Trauma and Self Care

Beware Of Vicarious Trauma

Understanding Vicarious Trauma


Vicarious Trauma and Self Care

Vicarious Trauma and Self Care

Vicarious Trauma and Self Care

Vicarious Trauma and Self Care


Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration

SAMHSA

Additional Notes

Additional Notes

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